Thursday, June 21, 2018

A Bruised Foot and a Blog Post

Guess what! I bruised my foot and now I'm writing a blog post. They aren't really related, besides the fact that most Thursday mornings I would be pushing myself to get out for a walk or a hike or go to the climbing gym. Today I realized that maybe I should let that bruise settle down a bit... especially since I fully plan to ignore it and go hiking on Saturday. ;)  The point being that since I'm not outside, maybe I could actually brush the dust off my poor little neglected blog.

The problem with trying to write a post after so long is that I either want to go completely overboard and tell you ALL THE THINGS, or I'm left with saying "Oh, you know. There's not that much going on." I'll try for something in between.

I miss writing. I miss sorting through my thoughts on paper and making new connections and figuring things out through the process of sorting out what to write. I miss the part where suddenly I realize that there was something important to me that I hadn't been paying attention to until I wrote about it. I miss talking about the little mundane things of life that are still some of the best and worst of life. The problem is, the less you do it, the less you can sit down and connect with those benefits. Once you get less of that and writing is more of a chore, you do it less, and soon you go months without writing at all.

I also hate that I'm missing out on what's going on with everyone else. I think I talked about how I got off social media over Thanksgiving and Christmas, and it was SO worth it. However, once I got out of the habit, I haven't really got back into the habit. Now I'm in some weird no-man's land. I get on a few times a week (especially Instagram) or every couple of weeks (to try to catch up on blogs), but it's not quite enough to get all the important posts. Or I'm reading blogs quickly, and don't have time to comment, but try to get back to the posts to comment, but then I don't get back to the posts to comment... I feel like I need to find a way to be a little more connected with some people while not getting sucked into the vortex of crazy that comes with reading all the IG and FB posts of all the acquaintances in my life. Anyone found a good way to do that??

I'll keep working on figuring out the balance; and the way to use Insta in a way that is helpful to me, rather than relying on their crazy algorithm. That algorithm is set up in a way to benefit them, and I want to use the site in a way that benefits me. We shall see. And I want to get back into a better rhythm of blogging, both reading and writing, because obsolete as it may be to have a personal blog, I still love it, from both aspects of it.

Monday, March 19, 2018

The Home Stretch of Lent

Can you believe it? I saw "Fifth Sunday of Lent" at church yesterday, and had to flip forward to remind myself that, yes, next week is Holy Week. Wow.

I'm excited. I have to admit that I didn't suddenly perfect my Lent after my issues starting, but focusing in better has made me better at what I was doing. This Lent, though, has been a lot less about what I'm doing and a lot more about what God is doing. My Lent, if anything, has just been about giving God a little more space and letting go for Him to do whatever He wants. I'm looking forward to sharing more about that, but I'm still processing some of the subtleties.

In the meantime, during Evening Prayer the other day, this translation (of unknown origin) for Philippians 2:12-15 really caught my eye:
Work with anxious concern to achieve your salvation. It is God who, in his good will toward you begets in you any measure of desire or achievement. In everything you do, act without grumbling or arguing; prove yourselves innocent and straightforward, children of God without reproach.
I know that any good that I do comes from God, but the idea that it is God who begets even any desires that we have, when they are good desires, is what made me sit up and take notice. Any desire to grow closer to Him during Lent, comes from Him. Any desire to heal relationships, or repent or any of the other things that we desire but can't always make them happen; they are all from Him.

In particular (you knew it had to come back to this), I think of my desire to be married and have children. I feel very strongly that I am called to marriage, and I am working through what it means if that doesn't happen. It is not that I don't think that it will happen; it could happen at any time. But the reality is that no matter how great our desire, sometimes it doesn't happen. But that wording... "It is God who... begets in you any measure of desire..." I don't know what might or might not happen, but I know that fruit will come from any desire that comes from God.

Saturday, February 24, 2018

Enough Lenten Practices

I made a "to do" list last night that, even though it was on paper, made me want to add #winningatlife.

1) Call my parents
2) Sleep in
3) Wash sheets

Any time you can convince yourself that "sleeping in" is an appropriate item on your to do list, you're doing something very right, IMHO.

It's not that I'm caught up on everything that I could or should be doing, it's just that my normal routine is off while I'm still trying not to let my latest allergy issues run away with me, so sleeping in becomes a real priority. Luckily, for me, "sleeping in" merely means waking up without an alarm and feeling well-rested, because I still woke up insanely early, but I was truly awake and ready to go. My sheets are currently in the dryer. I haven't had breakfast yet, so I won't call my parents on an empty stomach, but that will happen today. I think this list is going to get done.

I started writing my to do lists this way last year. I'm pretty sure I was introduced to this concept by Joshua Becker at "Becoming Minimalist". It's called an "Enough List". It's not all of the things that I need to do in a day, it's the 3 things that most need to be done today, the things that will make me feel the most relaxed, the things that are most weighing on me, the things with some kind of a deadline. Only 3 things are on the list. Sometimes it feels like it absolutely has to be 5 things, so it's interesting to have to narrow it down to 3. I love it, though. Three things are doable. Three things allows me to focus instead of crazily running around trying to get to all of the things that I feel like I could or should be doing. When I am focused on those big ticket things for the day, there is suddenly room for the other things to fit into the margins. Not everything, but many other important things. Instead of feeling like a failure for not getting to everything, now any extra thing that gets done makes me feel like I am ahead of the game. In short, I love "Enough Lists".

Wouldn't you know that I planned my Lent like my old "to do" lists. The thought process went something like this: "I'm going to give up this thing. Ooh, and actually, I'm going to also give up that on Fridays. And Mondays and Wednesdays. And I'm going to make time to go do this and this, and also that." Etc. It was a messy jumble of stuff.

A wise commenter on my last post pointed out that these Lenten practices, or exercises, should be treated like physical exercises. If what you're doing isn't working, sometimes it's because it's not the right thing for you right now. So I guess I need an "Enough List" for Lent. Given that we are reminded about prayer, fasting, and almsgiving this time of year, it seems like there are some convenient categories for my three things. Because I still feel like there should be 5 or 7 things, it feels like a bit of a cop out to only focus on three, but the point is, I can actually focus on them. That means that I can make sure they get done. The last day or so is already going so much better.

Enough List for Lent:

1) Pray evening prayer
2) No TV after 5 pm
3) Use some of my discretionary money for people in need

In theory, I like elaborate Lenten practices that really make me dig in and show my Lenten prowess. The reality is that often we're far better off to do some small things well. (That's not always true. Sometimes God has something big that He wants us to do, to rely on Him in a deeper way.) For me, this year, I think it's safe to say that there may be a little pride involved when I want to doallthegoodthingsrightnow. This "Enough List" is my reminder that maybe this Lent is not about me doing all the things, it's about clearing a bit of space for God to do His work in me.

Thursday, February 22, 2018

A Not So Perfect Lent

Well, my Lent is off to a shaky start, how's yours going?

Actually, it started out great on Ash Wednesday. I made it to Mass for the first time in a couple of years because normally my work schedule really conflicts with Mass times. But then it's been down hill from there. I want to cut back on my TV time in the evening, but have been watching a fair amount of Olympics. I want to be a little hungry (not eat quite as much), but I've been sick and have just not worried about it. I also want to try to get to daily Mass at least once a week, and this morning was the time to go... And I was in bed when Mass started. It's true that I'm still not feeling 100%, but I'm a lot better today, and sometimes I wonder how much of it is simply compromising. Since I try not to overload with things to do during Lent, I'm kind of shooting 0/fer.

I don't want to excuse myself too much (and I'm okay with the food thing; it is different when you're sick), but I also don't want to worry about it too much. I don't know what the right response is, because it is easy both to be too lenient and to be too harsh when judging how we're doing with these things.

The funny thing is, there was a time where I would have been frustrated that I had already "ruined" my Lent. There is nothing ruined here. Lent is about growing and learning and turning back to God. Funny how God can take the very failures and make them exactly into the perfect Lenten experience to foster that growth and return. I may not do Lent perfectly, but He does.

Seriously, how is your Lent going?

Sunday, January 21, 2018

Not Perfect

I'm eating too much. I'm trying to cut out sugar and processed food. I'm not doing a perfect job of it.

My house is mostly picked up, but my kitchen floor hasn't been scrubbed in a while. I cleaned most of my bathroom, but somehow forgot the mirror.

I want to watch less TV than I do. At the very least, I want to not have another screen on while the TV is on. Stretching would be fine. Doing a mindless job like folding laundry would be fine. Just sitting and paying attention to only the TV would be fine, but that's not what I do.

I want to move and stretch more. Or maybe not more, but be more organized in what I do so that I can build on it better.

I want to be a better friend, and a better daughter. I fail. Often.

I want to be positive, but I still complain.

I'm okay with this. I'm not going to stop trying, but I can only do so much. When it comes to food, I do need to cut back a little, but my current focus is cutting the sugar and processed food. While I am not perfect there, I am making really good progress. I'm giving myself a pass on worrying about how much I'm eating at the moment. If I'm hungry, I start making worse decisions about the sugar and processed stuff, so I decided to worry about one thing at a time.

I was wondering why I'm not a better housekeeper, and while there are times that I could watch less TV, most of the time if housework doesn't happen, it's because it took too long to cook food. I can live with that. If my house is messy because I was cutting up vegetables again, it's fine.

I do want to move more and move better, but good movement is so that I can enjoy living. It needs to work for me rather than only being another task.

I am finding many ways to be more positive, to complain less, to be a better person. It takes time, and that's okay.

I have decided that I need to pursue progress, not perfection. Progress is possible, but perfection isn't. The most interesting thing to me is how obvious it is currently that I can't pursue everything, because one thing has a direct impact on the other areas of my life, so I have to choose what is more important right now.