Thursday, July 2, 2015

Love Wins

Well, I'm probably fired as a blogger if I don't share a tiny bit of my opinion about the recent SCOTUS decision.

I'm not surprised. Not one little bit. I'm not surprised that we've made this decision. I'm not surprised that there are already polygamous couples applying for marriage licenses. I'm not surprised that everyone is polarized and everyone feels on both sides feels attacked. (You know why we all feel that way? Because people on either side ARE attacking people on the other side.) 

I would just like to say, whatever "side" you think you're on, we are all in this together, and we are not going to heal as a society by bashing each other with the same tired arguments.  The rallying cry right now is "Love Wins!" (sorry, but I object to hashtags on principle). Whatever "side" you are on, that's not wrong. Every time that we take a moment to actually listen to a person whose views are different than ours, every time we give them the respect of thinking that they have something worth saying that is worth our listening to, every time that we assume for a moment that they are not choosing to believe what they believe in order to be contrary and hateful, but because they really do care about other people, love wins. You don't have to agree with them to appreciate their sincerity and to hear what they are thinking.

Every time that we value any person that is in front of us and see them as someone who matters- even if they are on the other "side", love wins. Every time that we look out for another person and try to be there for them in their time of need, to hear the cry of their heart, love wins. You think these things don't have anything to do with the current conversation? They have EVERYTHING to do with it. In my opinion, for love to win, there has to be a lot less talking, a LOT less bashing, a lot less defensiveness and a lot more actual love happening, even if it costs us. If we can actually learn to love each other (not in a special feelings for a special person way, but in a everyone matters way), then conversations can happen and healing can happen, even if total agreement doesn't happen for quite some time.

7 comments:

  1. Wonderful post...saying what more people need to be thinking and say! <3

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  2. I only lost one friend on Facebook for posting the story of girl raised by two moms, now divorced and learns her uncle was the sperm donor.

    She wishes her dad (uncle) would love her, like his other daughterd

    The kids aren't all right.

    http://cappadociainlowell.blogspot.com/2015/05/7qt-i-flipped-table-over-marriage.html

    It wasn't even homophobic, because I focused on sperm/egg donation.

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  3. Well written! This is such a difficult time in which to live. We walk a thin line in following our beliefs and being kind and loving to those who feel attacked.

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  4. I would not hold that Idaho article up as an example for many reasons.

    http://www.snopes.com/politics/religion/hitchingpost.asp

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