In some sense, it's okay that it's not okay. Whatever.
Here is where I am going to get myself into real trouble, seeing as how I am single and have never had a child. But I'm going with it, and you can't stop me. In some ways it reminds me of some descriptions that I've seen of natural childbirth. You have to learn on some level to accept the pain and allow it to work to accomplish the goal. Fighting the pain doesn't help; it only makes it worse. (Which is not to say that I'm strong enough for natural childbirth.)
I don't really know what the goal is here, but I know my response. Whatever. Whatever the goal is, whatever the timing is, whatever my life ends up looking like, that's okay. Whatever. I do care, but I don't want to fight anymore. Fighting takes more time and energy than I have.
Can we also take a quick moment to discuss posts related to babies and husbands and families and all sorts of things of that nature? Sometimes people are afraid to post or comment, because they're afraid of my reaction. Let me tell you how it goes when I sort through my blog reader. For some folks, those that I don't know as well, there are days when I can't read those kinds of posts. Doesn't matter if they're happy posts about wonderful families or complaining posts about how tough it is. I can't read it.
The whole other end of the spectrum are the people that take a moment to be there. They comment on those posts and many others. Sometimes they are in the same boat of singleness, sometimes they are married but have struggled with or are struggling with infertility, and many times they are married with kids and others on the way. They can be people who comment on my blog or email me or just keep in touch with me IRL. When they have news to share, I'm excited to hear about new babies. I'm excited to hear what the older babies are doing. I enjoy hearing stories about awesome husbands. I love that they include me in their stories, just as they have taken a moment to participate in mine. I love getting a chance to walk the road together in some way from our many different perspectives. In the interaction, it is no longer just about haves and have nots. It is simply about sharing our varied lives, and that is truly a joy.
I know it can be different for different people that are struggling with various things of their own, but that's how I usually feel about it.