Anyway, I sat at that ceremony and wondered what these kids were hoping for and dreaming about. I wondered where they would be in 10 years, and what life had in store for each of them. That also made me think about where I was 10 years ago, and how the desires of my heart had changed while they stayed the same.
I thought about when I was 18 and graduating from high school and headed into college. I was there for school, but I certainly thought about the meat market. My parents had met in college, so I assumed that all I had to do was go to college, and I would eventually meet The One. At that time, I would say that I had a more balanced view of marriage than a lot of people did. I had a lot of great examples in my life; my parents were married 20 years at the time, and my grandparents over 40. I thought I had it all figured out, because I knew that relationships were hard work and commitment, so I was prepared.
I wanted to meet someone that would love me, that would provide companionship, that I could laugh and cry with, that would go on dates and do fun stuff with me. My faith was very important, so the main requirement was that he had a strong faith in God. I preferred a Catholic, but I didn't really care, as long as he loved God. I did want someone that would not have a problem with me being Catholic, or the kids being Catholic.
At the time, I thought I really needed someone, but I was also distracted by all the fun that is college life and meeting new people. I wished for a boyfriend, but I knew I wasn't ready to be married yet anyway so it wasn't too bad to wait. Let's not mention that to the 18-year-old me. She probably won't listen or agree.