Dear Young Girl: You need to be cute, blemish-free and thin, but you want curves in the right spots. When you get dressed, be sure that it attracts attention to all the right places. Don't be afraid to show what you've got. After all, your value comes from your sexiness. If you are feeling unsure and vulnerable, sex will fill that deep desire for love that you have. And, frankly, you're kind of an unhealthy freak if you don't have sex.
Dear Young Man: If you have made it to your teens, you should be having sex. Seriously, you will not become man if you don't. The only way that you can prove to the world that you have what it takes is if you have a lot of sex. The more women you can have, the more beautiful they are, the more worth you have. And, frankly, you're kind of an unhealthy freak if you don't have sex.
Dear Woman: You should be empowered to have sex all the time if you so please. You should be able to have sex without having the responsibility of having a child, unless, of course, you want to. After all, no one should be forced to go through pregnancy. It will make you less sexy and less desirable. Ergo, your worth will be less. You will have less sex. And, frankly, you're kind of an unhealthy freak if you don't have sex.
Dear Man: Sex is where it's at. If you are not getting good enough (or just enough) sex with the woman you have, you should probably move on. In order to prove your strength, your prowess, your manhood, you need to be having sex. Frankly, you're kind of an unhealthy freak if you don't have sex.
Dear Older Woman: You can be sexy (i.e. have worth), too. Just buy these products, do these exercises, eat these foods, and have these surgeries, and you can be sexy for well into your sixties, at least! No need to worry about losing your value and worth to wrinkles, bulges and gray and/or thinning hair. After all, you're kind of an unhealthy freak if you don't have sex.
Dear Older Man: There are constantly new products on the line to improve your performance. Not to worry, your worth and quality of life is preserved! Because, frankly, you're kind of an unhealthy freak if you don't have sex.
Dear Priest/Nun/Religious: You're crazy. You must be abnormal somehow. Unless you are normal, but the Catholic Church's celibacy requirement is repressing you by making you choose between your noble vocation of serving others and your value and worth as a person. The Catholic Church should be ashamed. Unless you're okay with being celibate. Then I go back to my original assessment: frankly, you're kind of an unhealthy freak.
Dear Person with homosexual orientation: You have every bit as much worth as everyone else, and to prove it, you should be able to have sex with whomever you please. Frankly, you're kind of an unhealthy freak if you don't have sex.
Dear Single Person: Lucky you, you can have sex with whomever strikes your fancy! Your life is good. If you can't find someone to hook up with tonight, you still deserve to have pleasure and worth, so there's always other ways of getting said pleasure. Because, frankly, you're kind of an unhealthy freak if you don't have sex.
You get the picture. Here's what I have to say about that:
Dear World: According to what you are saying, the more sex the better. That would mean that prostitutes must be living the best life.
They're not? Oh. Well, it must be because they are just being used and paid. Still, the most sex equals the winner, so rock stars must be the happiest, most well-adjusted people on the planet. Not a smidgen of angst anywhere on the horizon.
Hmm, that's not working for them, either? Well, maybe it only applies to committed people, like those in marriages. They must be the ones that are getting all the happiness.
Huh. Only 33% of married people make it to their 25th anniversary? Well, it must be because they're not having enough sex. The most sex wins, so prostitutes must be the happiest people...
Get a grip, World! That's what we call circular reasoning. Something is out of balance, and here's what it is: in the equation of life, sex is not the answer. It is only one of the variables. A very good variable, I grant you, but a variable nonetheless. What gives us our worth, what gives us our meaning to exist, is not sex, but love. Love is the answer that we are looking for. Not merely the love of humans, though that love is a part of the answer.
The answer, the living Love that we long for, is God.